Bibliotherapy: ATTACHED

Do you love being in love but find it difficult to maintain a long-term, stable relationship? The problem almost surely has to do with your attachment style.

​In their wildly popular book, ​Attached, authors Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, discuss the science of human attachment, including why we feel a biological imperative to attach to others and how our particular attachment style develops.

In a nutshell, how we get treated by our caregivers as young children has a direct result on how we approach love as adults. The authors define the three most prevalent attachment styles--secure, anxious, and avoidant--and describe how people with these different styles approach relationships.

The book offers a quiz for you to figure out your own style, plus another to ascertain your partner's. It also goes into great length about how people with different attachment styles jell, e.g. anxious/secure can go together but anxious/avoidant cannot. (It's sounds a little bit like astrology. But there's real science behind it, I promise!)