In a nutshell, how we get treated by our caregivers as young children has a direct result on how we approach love as adults. The authors define the three most prevalent attachment styles--secure, anxious, and avoidant--and describe how people with these different styles approach relationships.
The book offers a quiz for you to figure out your own style, plus another to ascertain your partner's. It also goes into great length about how people with different attachment styles jell, e.g. anxious/secure can go together but anxious/avoidant cannot. (It's sounds a little bit like astrology. But there's real science behind it, I promise!)
Chan was living with the man she assumed she would marry when she learned he had cheated. Devastated, she broke up with him but found it hard to get over the loss. In searching for clues on how to mend her broken heart, Chan learned a lot about the science of love. In her book, she explains the biological chemistry that gives us those lovin' feelings, how our attachment style affects our relationships, and how to break the shackles of shame.
It's an eye-opening look at this thing called love with information that might change your life.
Dr. Michelle Stevens is a psychologist, writer, and expert on trauma. She wrote the bestselling book, Scared Selfless: My Journey from Abuse and Madness to Surviving and Thriving (Putnam, 2017).